I’ve often heard the saying, “If we forget the past, we’re doomed to repeat it,” or the similar, “The experience is repeated until the lesson is learned.”
I’ve known this to be true from observing my own life, and the lives of those around me. We’re drawn into the same relationships, the same experiences, over and over again… but I’ve recently understood that learning the lesson is only half the ‘solution’.
The ‘pill’ I’m about to offer may be difficult to swallow for some. Others will reject it outright. But I believe those who are ready will read these words and hear the truth of them. If you’re not ready… that’s OKAY. My truth and your truth don’t need to be in lockstep. Truth, as much as we’d often insist that it is absolute – black and white – is much more subjective than we would like to believe.
The hardships we experience in life serve a purpose. Their purpose is to teach us valuable lessons and experiences, guiding us toward our ‘experience purpose’. If you came here to be a healer, you must first experience pain. If you’ve ever been to a doctor who obviously had no compassion for the situation you are experiencing, you will understand what I mean.
You can’t create, if you can’t relate.
So, your hardships are merely the ‘Soul University’, where we learn and grow in order to better perform our purpose here. The tricky part is, when we arrive on this Earth, we forget our purpose by design. So we don’t understand until much later, if ever, why we had to go through these things. The prize is only revealed after the fight has been won.
Our higher selves (Soul, Spirit) knew this would be the case, they literally signed up for this. Our lower selves (the human part of us, the ego)… not so much. If our lower selves had known what was coming, they would find some way to avoid it, effectively hamstringing our soul’s purpose here.
Anywho, back to the point…
Learning what the lesson is is simply not going to stop it from ‘replaying’, because learning the lesson simply means that your lower self has finally understood why it was made to endure the experience… but the lesson isn’t intended for the lower self. The lessons are intended for the higher self, the self who came here with a purpose, and when that self learns the lesson, you will know. And until THAT self learns the lesson, it will keep repeating.
I’ve written several posts recently about taking back your power, and about places where we lose power, and here’s the thing… that ‘power leak’… it’s a lesson. It’s a sign that a lesson lies within the experience, but…
You can reclaim your power without ever learning the lesson.
Meaning, the power will leak again, and again, and again. It’s like catching the water dripping from a cracked bucket, and tossing it back into the bucket. It’s just going to keep dripping, you’ll keep tossing, over and over, until you FIX THE BLOODY LEAK. Or in keeping with the verbiage of the post, until your higher self learns the lesson. (Just as an aside, let me say this… if number of leaks indicates number of lessons, and number of lessons equates to the importance of your ‘soul purpose’… I must have a doozy of a purpose, because my ‘power bucket’ leaks like a sieve, LOL!)
So, the million dollar question is… how do we know when our higher self has finally learned the lesson? The answer is simple.
We feel gratitude for the experience.
That is how you ‘fix your leak’. Simple, right? Most of us who are on this path have started to catch on that most of the time, the answers actually are simple. Think about it. We spend our entire lives trying to become the very thing we were when we arrived on this earth. Babies are 100% authentic, they know what they want, and they embody pure love. Before they are tainted by the ‘real world’ (and by this, I mean those who have spent more than a few years here- including their parents), children are very independent. They don’t worry about what they will eat unless it doesn’t come when they need it. They don’t worry about what to wear until someone tells them they should be wearing something. They are easily startled, but they fear nothing. They get hurt, but it’s forgotten as soon as the pain fades. They love without regard to race, gender, stature, status… until they are taught otherwise. We spend our entire existence attempting to retrace our steps back to the Being we arrived here as. We were perfect, loving Beings who arrived with a purpose, but we were hijacked and reprogrammed by the human condition. The solutions we seek must be simple. They must be easy. Babies can do it. YOU can do it. What makes it difficult is that, unlike electronics, the human experience doesn’t come with a ‘factory reset’ button.
The higher self feels gratitude for the experience, because it has finally understood how the experience relates to its ‘purpose’, and what the higher self, the soul, desires more than anything, is to fulfill its purpose here. The souls who did these awful things to us were teaching us. They were fulfilling their ‘agreements’ with our own soul, made when we were all together before coming here.
The gratitude we feel is more than simply realizing why or how an experience puts you on the path toward your soul purpose, it’s gratitude for the person that facilitated the lesson. Yes, you heard me right. You feel gratitude for your abuser. For your cheating ex. For your emotionally distant parent…
I may have lost you with that last paragraph, and that’s okay. I would have lost myself with it only yesterday. Hell, I would have lost myself with that paragraph three hours ago. But in writing this post, I was suddenly struck with another insight, which turned into a follow-up post to this one, which focuses on why a lesson truly learned results in gratitude, not only for the lesson, but for the teacher as well, and that post is coming tomorrow.