Stop Fighting, Start Loving (Part 2)

If you missed Part 1, you can go back and read it here.

How much more would you enjoy your life if nothing around you had to change in order for you to feel good and be happy?

I’m not saying every moment would be fluffy bunnies and rainbows, but any moment you want, whether you like what’s going on around you or not, the choice to be happy is yours, you just have to choose to accept the current circumstances… and make the decision to be happy, to Be More Loving, with no regard to circumstances whatsoever.

In choosing to Be More Loving, I didn’t magically stumble onto the secret to ‘happily ever after’ in the sense that I would never have problems or issues crop up in my life that make me unhappy or that I consider unpleasant to deal with.  What it meant was that I have available to me, at any time I so choose, an ‘easy button’ for Life.

Life still happens to me, just like when I went through life ‘not harming others’, both the good and the bad things in life still come my way, but the good comes a whole lot easier, and the bad suddenly doesn’t seem quite as bad as it did, just a moment ago… before I remembered to Be More Loving.  Whether that means toward myself or toward someone (or something) else, the second I recall that I want to Be More Loving, it instantly becomes easier to do so.

It means I’m allowed to love myself, even though I got a pretty bad speeding ticket.  A year ago, I’d still be welling up with tears, just thinking about getting that ticket.  Tonight?  The only reason it’s even on my mind is because, like magic, my life experience is reflecting back to me the spiritual lessons I am learning.  The things I put out there really do come back to me.  When I am out of alignment with my ‘higher self’ (or God, if you like that term), the things that reflect back at me from life are also out of alignment with how I would like them to be.  And like life, that ticket showed me that I had been putting out the wrong energy.

Apparently, I have graduated to a level of understanding with this stuff that the Universe has decided to take off the ‘kid gloves’.  I had my head completely out of the game this morning, and the Universe, in all its infinite wisdom, knew the exact thing to snap me back on track, and managed it in such a way that I have come to no lasting harm as a result of my own carelessness.

By making the first rule ‘Be More Loving‘, I found out how to bypass my ego completely.  That pesky little voice in my head, the one that perceives and radiates all of my ‘pain’, if completely removed from the equation, can’t ‘take something the wrong way’, because the only way anything can be taken is more lovingly.  It won’t matter how something was meant, because my response will (hopefully) Be More Loving.  Even if it’s not, the instant I remember the first rule of life, it will be.

It means that I have given myself permission to Be More Loving to me.  No matter where I am, what I’ve done or said this time, it’s okay.  For the first time in my life, it’s okay.  I’m okay.  In my old paradigm, the ‘don’t harm others’ mindset, sometimes, I would judge my needs as greater than other’s needs, but ‘serve’ others, because I perceived the ‘harm’ to others to be more important than the harm to myself.  After all, if I mattered, the rule would have included me.

In fact, most of my life, none of the ‘rules’ seemed to include me.  Do unto others first, then hope they do unto me, let others go first, let others eat first, let others shine too (as though my own brightness dimmed the lights of others), instead of teaching me to love the lights of others, as much as I loved my own, I was taught to resent the light within those around me, because its presence meant I had to dim my own, so I didn’t harm others.

See how this ‘don’t harm others’ mindset can be a bit of a tricky life strategy to maintain in tandem with your sanity?  We (as a society) have become so caught up in how important it is to make sure everyone knows ‘not to harm others’, and the right way to go about ‘not harming others’, we have all forgotten the most important rule of all…

Be More Loving.

I can feel myself experiencing some anxiety, the more I sit with this idea… and I’m grateful.  I am so grateful that I am able to see the anxiety, to see it and to recognize it for what it is.  That’s huge for me.

Because I can feel the anxiety early, I can address the problem before it becomes too big to handle with ease.  The anxiety I am experiencing seems to be around judgement and being judged.

Instead of resisting the anxiety, I will allow myself to feel it.

And in feeling it, I let myself ‘feel’ the judgement of others, telling me my ideas were stupid and crazy-talk, and you know what? Nothing happened.  I realized that, if I believe the stuff I’m saying, really believe it, then if and when that happens, I will remember to Be More Loving, and I will not die of embarassment.  No one will burn me at the stake.  I will simply realize, whatever the next logical step is, to Be More Loving, both to myself and to those around me… or I won’t.  But eventually, I will realize it, and when I do, I will Be More Loving, and I will feel gratitude for the journey that we will find ourselves on.

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4 thoughts on “Stop Fighting, Start Loving (Part 2)

  1. tarnishedsoul

    Personally, I like the fluffy bunnies and rainbows, so I’d prefer to stay in that frame of mind…lol

    I have to say that your point about ego is a huge deal. I have found that my ego – when it’s good or bad – gets in the way of so many things. It’s truly important to check the ego on a regular basis.

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    1. That’s true! It’s our (humanity’s) greatest downfall… but it’s also our greatest strength. Which I plan to expand on further in a post in the near future 🙂

      So glad you enjoyed the post! (And yes, I prefer the fluffy bunny & rainbow times, too!)

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  2. I know who invented the law of attraction. It’s the police lol!

    Jokes aside, nice take on your situation honestly. But you know, throughout being loving we must not forget to stay genuine. If not ain’t it the same as trying “not to harm”? 😉

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    1. Indeed, because if it’s fake… it’s just another mask being used to hide who you really are from someone else. When I can’t love someone else, then I love myself because I can’t love them. I love my imperfect-ness, I love myself for having it, and I love that person for showing me that imperfect-ness, so that I could work on it.
      If I am fully present and loving, that would be my perfect response… but I am human, so I get upset, I think and say rude things if I’m frustrated… but the instant I remember that I only have to remember the first rule, and I always immediately feel some relief. Sometimes, it takes years to completely release certain ‘triggers’, but simply becoming AWARE of them greatly reduces their hold on you, so you naturally develop a longer fuse, literally, without any effort at all. Things that would have caused offense in the past no longer even register. You stop participating in the subconscious power struggle most human beings unconsciously engage in.
      If this topic interests you, there’s another coming soon that should also interest you! 🙂

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