My title was an attempt at humor I’m not sure will go over well, and I’m not sure of Eggo waffles are even a thing anywhere else but for now, it stays.
Poor Ego. She’s derided, pushed aside, ignored, transcended, and killed… but yet… she perseveres.
No matter what we do, we can’t ‘kill’ the ego, not permanently. Short of death, and presumably a coma, we can barely quiet it down.
Like most humans, we find something new, and analyze it to death, then judge it as ‘good’ or ‘bad’, then proceed from there. We discovered we have this… ‘aspect’ of ourselves, discovered that it is the apparent ‘source’ of our negativity, the aspect of ourselves which is OUT of alignment with God, the Universe, Source Energy… and immediately decide it’s a bad thing, needing to be quieted or transcended or even killed!
Ego… she’s not perfect, not by any means, but if it wasn’t for her, there is no ‘contrast’. Humanity wouldn’t evolve, we wouldn’t grow, we wouldn’t reach for the stars… because we would survive, and we would be content, and we would be pure love and light and happiness. Without the part of myself that is doggedly focused on me and my personal well-being and survival, my Ego, I wouldn’t survive, because I’d be too busy singing Kumbaya to remember to eat, and I’d probably end up starving to death!
Ego is the power behind your drive, your ambition, your creativity even. What is creativity, other than the initiative to create externally that which we feel we lack internally? Or that which we feel others lack, and would appreciate? Ego drives all of that.
It’s DISsatisfaction that has driven human beings to invent, create, imagine, dream, grow, evolve, and expand. Turmoil inspires change. Most people don’t carry an umbrella on a sunny day. We only change our habits, our routines, when change we dislike occurs within our environment. If we have no Ego, no self-centered ‘compass’, we have no ‘self’ with which to DISLIKE anything on behalf of.
The problem isn’t our EGOs, the problem is where we focus the attention of our egos.
We allow our undisciplined Ego (well-intentioned sprout that she is) to just focus her attention anywhere! Your ‘inner child’ isn’t some fragile, breakable thing you have to treat with kid gloves all the time. Yeah, at first, while you’re figuring things out, you should be gentle. You’re not so much disciplining a wayward child, you’re taming a wild beast. A beast that has been left to its own devices for many years. And now you think you’re just going to stroll in, point to a chair, and expect it to sit quietly?
You guys know how I love my analogies, so if you will indulge me (well… if I will indulge myself, really, because by the time you read these words, your choice in the matter has pretty much been decided…)…
An animal is born ‘free’ whether it is born in the wild or born in captivity. Without the awareness of ‘different’ ways of being, most animals will be completely unaware that another state of being even exists.
If you read my blog, you’ve probably read other books, articles etc. along the same lines, so you have probably run across the story about how elephants are tied to sturdy rope as a baby, when they are not strong enough to break it, and even once they’re big and strong and could snap the rope with little effort, the rope will still hold the elephant in place, because it learned it couldn’t break the rope as a baby, so it doesn’t consider testing it once it’s an adult, and strong enough to snap the rope with little effort.
We humans are the same way. We are taught from an early age not to cause trouble. Not to question the rules, just to accept them and meekly obey them, until they put us in the ground, with the gold star on our gravestone that says “She never broke the rope”.
What a shitty epitaph.
I think I’d rather mine read:
She broke their ropes, so they put her in chains. She broke their chains, so they put her in a cell. She escaped their cell, and set as many as she could free.
Don’t try to ‘kill’ your ego. It’s our most precious gift. Train it. Break the rope, and let your spirit soar.
When you free your mind (ego) from the bonds it has been constrained with since childhood, when you tame it and train it to help you, instead of hinder you, life as you know it will change, forever.
And it is awesome.