Feelings = Emotion = Energy = Vibration = Frequency
So, Law of Attraction (LOA) is a really big buzzword/catchphrase right now. Everyone is telling us what it is, and what it means, and how to work it… but while much of what is said sounds like more of the same, there’re some pretty big differences once you start digging a little deeper.
In an early post, I touched on what LOA was not, and I’d like to expand on that a little. When I said, ‘It isn’t wishing upon a star that someday your Porche would come‘, what I meant by that was that LOA is absolutely not about thinking positive thoughts, and all your dreams will come true. It’s just not. Anyone who tries to sell you that load of BS is probably trying to sell you something.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Just because someone has something to sell you doesn’t mean they are full of shit. But the old adage, ‘if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is’ is just as true for LOA as it is for anything else. If that’s all there was to it, everyone would be doing it.
Perhaps instead of Law of Attraction, I should begin to call it ‘Law of Alignment’, because that’s more accurate. You’re not attracting anything, you’re aligning yourself with energy. It’s not coming to you, you’re giving your mind a directive, and it’s aligning itself with that desire, unless it’s being blocked by a core belief that is in opposition to it, in which case the new directive is ignored.
Wait… ‘core beliefs’?? Huh?
Now, some of you who have been working on this a while will already get this, but some of you, those who aren’t much deeper than ‘The Secret’, may be a little confused.
Allow me to attempt an explanation. That’s okay. You don’t have to understand all the vernacular right now.
Whether a core belief is conscious or unconscious doesn’t matter, you don’t have to realize you feel a certain way in order for your mind to align with it.
Let’s say you hold a core belief that rich people are shallow, manipulative, and greedy. Let’s say you also hold a core belief that you are a good person (This is a very oversimplified version of core beliefs… it’s almost always something much much deeper than this, but this will do for demonstration purposes). It doesn’t matter when, where or why you came to believe these things. All that matters is that you do believe them.
One day, you run across this ‘Law of Attraction’ thing, and you think ‘hey! I wanna be rich!’, so you read the book, and you watch the movie. You make your vision boards, finding pictures of your dream house, your dream car, your dream vacation, the perfect husband, the perfect kids, the perfect Labradoodle… and you write down your affirmations. You write them on sticky notes, plastering them everywhere; on the bathroom mirror, your bedroom ceiling, the sun visor of your car, your computer monitor… everywhere. You faithfully look at your vision board every day. You faithfully recite your affirmations three times a day… but it’s not working.
This is usually the point where most people get frustrated and give up, thinking that their manifestation gene must be defective, or else they just get pissed off, believing it doesn’t work, and embarrassed to have fallen for yet another scheme. But none of that is true. It’s not your fault it didn’t work. Someone gave you a 5,000 piece puzzle, and only gave you about five of the pieces. You’ve got the picture on the front of the box, you know what it’s supposed to look like, or at least you think you do, but you only have part of the puzzle. A tiny part.
Your mind will blind you to paths that go against your core beliefs.
No matter how much you tell it that you really want to be rich, as long as your mind believes that good people (and deep down, most of us believe that we are good people) and rich people are not synonymous with one another, for whatever reason… it’s just not going to work.
The truth is, most of us don’t really want the things we try to ‘attract’ with LOA. Take the desire to be rich. Specifics and ‘measurable goals’ aside, ‘rich’ is an extremely subjective term. While we say the word rich, even if we are thinking about money, we’re very rarely thinking of the actual money. We’re thinking of what we can GET with that money. And the things we can get with the money are also very rarely what we’re actually after. They’re all just symbols, representations of our real desires:
Happiness. Security. Power.
To be respected.
To be envied.
To be loved.
To be free.
Then you’re going to realize that as long as you desire these material things as a solution to some emotional lack, you’re not going to get them; and even if by some miracle you manage to acquire them, you’re going to be miserable, because you will constantly fear losing them.
LOA is about feelings. Emotions. Not stuff. Stuff is just the means by which we initially believe our happiness will come. Or we believe we will find that elusive sense of joy and completeness within a relationship; but we won’t.
You can’t escape yourself.
The work begins and ends within each of us, not outside of us.