Okay, so, I’m working on building up my intuition, and focusing on my thoughts, and I thought it would be fun to pull a card from one of my decks now and then to share with my readers for us to focus on. I’ve gotten a few decks recently, but my favorite is still my Heart Deck, by John Holland. (This is the link to the deck I use, on Barnes & Noble‘s website. This is not an affiliate link.)
You don’t have to believe in ‘fortune telling’ to focus on the message within the message. If Oracle or Tarot bother you, feel free to click away, or spend some time in meditation on the subject of hearing the voice of the Divine, however you enjoy doing so. 🙂
The Heart deck was created around relationships- not just romantic relationships, but all of the different ways we interact with one another- so it is likely that the message for you (if there is one) will center around some relationship, but not always. Sometimes this deck likes to play in other realms, so if you feel like there is some sort of message for you, but it has nothing to do with relationships, that’s okay. If it feels right, it’s more than likely right. No one’s interpretation of meaning supersedes your own intuition.
That being said, I have underlined all parts that felt applicable, and summarized at the end. I sincerely hope you find something you’re looking for in today’s message!
So… all the red tape out of the way, on to today’s card:
Master, influence, accept, compassion, patience, confidence
In order to flourish, a relationship must be fluid and free rather than overly rigid and controlled by emotional neediness or insecurity. It’s important to master your emotions so that they do not rule the relationship. A partnership based solely on emotion is out of balance and out of control. Self-control is the key here. Act from a combination of emotion and intellect, and your relationship will thrive and grow. Be sure that your influence is gentle and loving. This is not the time for domination. This card asks you to accept another person’s uniqueness and to not require that person to conform to a mold of your choosing just to make you feel more comfortable.
This card also serves as a reminder to come from compassion and understanding rather than anger or frustration. Now is the time for patience, steadiness, and clear thinking. Apply these qualities to your relationship with others and with yourself. If you’re involved with a difficult person or situation, try to look through the other person’s eyes and experience what his or her heart and soul feels. Try to see the situation from another perspective.
With self-control comes confidence. Allow a situation to unfold, and detach yourself from the outcome. Don’t try to control it. The end result of self-control and confidence is supreme peace. Take some time to examine how ‘control’ in its many aspects is affecting your relationships.
I control my emotions and embrace peace.
TRADITIONAL TAROT ARCHETYPE:
EIGHT symbolizes aspiration, fairness, honesty, comfort, security, control, friction, resentment, oppression.
Are you asking those around you to change their behavior in order to make you happy? As long as you require circumstances outside of yourself to improve before you can be happy, you will always be at the mercy of those very same circumstances. How much better it is to be happy from within, regardless of what is going on around us!
When you think that your good feelings come as a result of the behavior of the Beings surrounding you (instead of their true source, your Higher Self), you begin to blame those same ‘others’ when you start to feel bad.
Whomever controls your emotions has power over you.
Stop trying to hold so tightly to the reins of those around you. They are neither the source of your joy nor your pain. Release them from that unfair burden, and take back the responsibility for how you feel. Take back the power of your emotions.
Take back your self-control.
With kindness and compassion; because people won’t trust you’ve actually stopped blaming them for your shit for a while. They’ll still be defensive out of habit. They’ll react to what they think you’re saying. Some will even test you on purpose. Have patience. Have compassion.
And above all, have love. Always.
Namaste & Blessed be, friends!
Is there an area or a relationship in your life where you could stand to relinquish some control? How would doing so benefit you? Would any relationships improve if you were to take a more ‘hands-off’ approach?